Wife Sharing
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The term wife sharing has been around for a long time with simmilar customs in many countries around the globe. The most prevalent and documented culture refers to one in the area of Nepal and in the region up close to and above the Arctic Circle in a cold climate where women are scarce. A man in such a region knows that he enjoys the warmth he feels while lying with his wife. He understands that his guest might enjoy feeling the same warmth. For that reason, the men and women in the northernmost regions of the world have adopted the custom known as wife sharing. This custom is different however from the custom becoming popular in the United States.
[edit] compersive
A tendecy to become aroused instead of jealous when one's partner has sex with another person or a third partner; also the person having such interest.
He has a compersive reaction to seeing his wife getting laid.
This writing advocates compersive behavior "wife sharing" as a suppliment to a married couples sex life. Wife sharing simply means "A married woman who has intimate relations with another man with her husband's consent so he can watch". The wife in this scenario is referred to as a "hot wife". The wife agrees to this because her husband takes a vicarious pleasure in seeing all of the pleasures of his wife that occur during sex without being involved in the act and she will most likely enjoy it as well. This information is presented to help interested or curious couples gain an understanding.
The statistical information presented here was obtained from individuals who have researched this lifestyle as well polls taken from people who actively participate or have tried it at least once, or have considered it and decided against it.
Evidence of the popularity of wife sharing can be seen on DVD and on the Internet through web sites who offer video of wives being shared with adult video stars. Couples that participate in this are also exibitionists and more extreme than the casual sharing couple.
[edit] Who shares their wife?
A husbands decision to share his wife doesn't usually happen on it's own. It is usually triggered by some event like seeing his wife hug or kiss a man, or a sexual comment about his wife from a friend or hearing about someone else who may have tried sharing or discussed the topic.
There are attributes that define the type of man that would most likely be interested in sharing his wife. Based on questions posed to wives that have been shared and not shared the following characteristics are more common in husbands that would like to share.
- Intelligent
- Very easy going
- Not jealous
- Creativity
- Not extremely masculine
- Strong imagination
- Strong visual stimulation
- Enjoys adult movies
- Enjoys Lingerie
- Enjoys lights during sex
- Prefers specific body types
- Confident in his marriage
- Committed to his relationship
Some women are skeptical when their husband initially breaks the news to them about sharing. They believe that once the sharing happens their husband will believe he has the right to be with other women. For the husband with the sincere urge to share this is simply not true. In fact if given the choice between watching their wife and being with another woman they would definitely prefer to watch. Also, it certainly doesn't mean that he is not attracted to other women. It just means that his primary sexual interest, desires and fantasies will include to his chosen mate.
[edit] Who wants to be shared?
We questioned husbands about their wive's who both agreed and disagreed to be shared. The results of this questioning to determine a shared wife's characteristics were very inconsistent and covered a broad range of personality types. The only attributes that seemed fairly constant were that they had a strong relationship with their husband and they all seemed to be less emotional females than what would be considered average. Based on other feedback we received we believe each wife's decision to be shared or not is directly related to how she believed her husband would respond to her doing it. One other key item is that those that agreed to sharing have an "anything goes" attitude with regard to sex with their husband. Allowing yourself to be shared is the ultimate sacrafice in his eyes and he will definitely appreciate it and will feel a stronger bond with you for making the sacrafice for him.
For women skeptical about whether or not they want to commit to it, see the Online Dating topic below. Signing up for Online Dating is the easiest anonymous way to get an intimate look at the guys that are out there to help make a decision about whether or not to go through with it.
[edit] Background
Wife sharing generally becomes acceptable and desirable to men and some women in their late 30s and early 40s. This is the time where couples start to realize that their sexuality and ability to attract is not going to be around forever. I should clarify that a wife doesn't generally "desire" to be shared but some wives will consider trying it if they believe their husband is sincere in his desire to see it. When both parties are not open to trying it, there can be some resentment. For example, if a husband is enthusiastic about the idea and his wife is firmly against it. This scenario can cause some unconscious resentment of the unwilling spouse. Particularly through mild attitude changes and less enthusiasm in the bedroom. Things may seem to work themselves out over time, but there will always be some regret tucked away in his mind. This is not a reason to agree, it's just a consequence of different opinions. In many cases seeing it once is enough to diffuse the strong desire for the husband. This happens because what was once a fantasy has become reality thus lessening the need to build the story in his mind. He may still enjoy seeing it, but will usually accept the wishes of his wife as whether or not to do it again. The ideal situation is where both husband and wife are open minded and willing to try sharing as something that may enhance their relationship. Some husbands end up deciding that they don't like it after it happens. This stems from the husband who shares for other reasons besides an urge to see something he may enjoy.
Researchers believe wife sharing is the early desire of procreation from our late teens and early 20s re-surfacing later in life. A time when child bearing years have almost passed, and the posessive nature of the male has subsided. However, this is not true of all married adults and generally only surfaces in those who were never the "jealous" type (specifically the husband) to begin with. Some also believe this desire in some men is a form of mid-life crisis. This male phase of life gives men the urge to change their look or try to get back into shape. Some will buy expensive toys, and some will cheat on their wife with a younger girl which gives them the feeling of recapturing their youth. Wife sharing has added another option for a husband to satisfy his crisis. Watching their wife with another man rekindles an edgy excitement and makes her sexy again. Possible although rare is when the wife approaches her husband requesting to be shared. This scenario is less likely to result in any sharing and may even stir some jealousy in a husband who wouldn't have entertained the idea on his own. A wife's acceptance in participating is a result of wanting to please her man and for the physical pleasure that she may receive. This is in most cases much more intense because of the thrill of being permitted to do something that was never expected to happen within the bond of a marriage. Sharing rekindles excited nervousness, anticipation and a sexual arousal unlike any other.
People or groups who oppose wife sharing will never fully understand it. They claim that a man who truly loves his wife would never share her with other men. The truth to this is actually the exact opposite. A man who wants to see his wife with another man is confident in his relationship, loves her, trusts her, respects her and wants to include her in his most intimate fantasy. In his eyes what she is doing is putting aside her inhibitions as a sacrifice totally for him which creates an arousal he cannot experience in any other way. It is the man who lives out his fantasies without his wife that is looking for trouble.
When a husband realizes his desire for this he will keep it inside for a while before confessing it to his wife. Mostly because he denies in his own mind that this is what he actually wants. Some men who don't have open and honest relationships with their wives may keep it inside for years. So while this may be a scary revelation for some wives to hear from their husband, it is also an affirmation of the bond in their relationship.
[edit] Is It Cheating?
Well, the definition of cheating is "To be sexually unfaithful". And the definition of unfaithful with regard to sex is "having sex with someone other than one's regular partner". So, if we are considering only the definition, then yes it is cheating. That being the case, the husband who wishes to share his wife is doing so willingly thus allowing her to cheat. But if he's allowing it, how is it cheating? The argument can definitely be made that the definition contradicts itself in this case and that the term cheating only applies if someone is unknowingly being deceived resulting in some type of consequence. Those who practice sharing say that the guy brought into the bedroom is a tool being used by the husband and wife to enhance their sexual relationship. It's difficult to be on the favored side of this subject and not find many reasons to say that it's okay. But the bottom line is that two adults in a loving relationship can do whatever they feel is appropriate and explore beyond their boundaries to enhance the enjoyment of their relationship. Keeping in mind that the word "appropriate" is defined only by them and not what others might think.
[edit] A Sharing Couples Profile
There are many factors for both the husband and wife to consider before deciding to become involved in wife sharing. Spouses should each evaluate themselves and their partner to help decide if they will be successful at it. As a general guideline couples married more than 10 years that get involved are more likely to benefit from it and enjoy it. Also, with every year past 10 adds even more chance for success. Falling into this category doesn't mean that you should, it just means that you have a better chance than those that are newlyweds. Of course there are always exceptions to every rule. A large percentage of married couples who are skeptical but curious agree to only do it once to see if they both like it or not. If either decides it is no for them then they can forget it ever happened. A suprising number of those who decide against doing it again are actually glad that they tried it.
[edit] Finding A Guy
One of the other reasons that sharing has become so popular is because it is a lot easier than most people think to find a guy willing to take part in the fantasy. In fact you would probably have more trouble finding one that would refuse. If the roles were reversed and you were trying out husband-sharing, you may not find anyone to do it unless you paid them. 99% of single guys in a club would like nothing more than to end up in someone's bed. Even more valuable in his mind is the story he will have to tell his buddies. That being said, keep in mind that in most cases the only thing standing in the way of taking a young single attractive guy to the bedroom is asking him. Even if he knows your husband will be sitting there watching. So ladies if you see what you want then either you or your husband needs to let him know. The hardest part of hunting for a guy is finding one acceptable to the wife. This is not only a requirement it is also absolutely non-negotiable. If she is not into him then it doesn't happen.
[edit] Characteristics
While the husband might have his own ideas about what the guy should look like it is really the wife's decision on what type of guy she would be the most sexually attracted to. For most wives the favorite choice is one who is young, good looking and in shape although there are a wide range of other choices made. Some wives decide that as long as they are going to do it they want to try a guy of a different race. It is assumed this is done to increase the "naughtiness" factor of the encounter. In some cases, the wife has no preference or wants her husband to choose. Which most husbands are certainly willing to do. The guy should be chosen based on physical appearance, and not on personality. How tall should he be? What type of build? What age? What nationality? Last, but certainly not least, regardless of what anyone says size does matter. Especially a wife who has been married and faithful for over 10 years. The experience with a larger penis will make all the difference in the world. If the guy is smaller than the husband, the sex will be a lot less exciting for the wife and will be difficult for the husband to visually enjoy as well.
[edit] Ask a friend?
In many cases, couples who have decided to share will do so by simply inviting a male friend to be the guy. This has both advantages and disadvantages. The advantages are that this person is already a friend therefore the couple is already in tune with their personality, likes and dislikes, and the guy can be readily available for an encounter. The sharing can benefit the couple, as well as the friend. Also, it saves the hassle of spending a lot of time looking for a guy.
The disadvantages are that adding sex into a friendship can cause issues or changes in your friendship. It can make previously friendly encounters uncomfortable. If the sex isn't what you thought it would be, then there may be hurt feelings if the friend isn't invited to do it again. There may be subsequent discussions about the guy and analysis about things he says, the way he acts, etc. This is not always the case, and there are many couples that have enhanced their friendships by adding friends into their sex lives.
[edit] Picking up a Guy
Finding a guy in person is something that can be fun and can be done many different ways. A free "single" night out for the wife alone or with friends resulting in bringing home a guy. The husband and wife can go out together and decide which of them will approach potential candidates. Or they can go out together and the husband can sit back and observe while his wife gets "picked up". It is ideal in this situation to go to a bar or club attached to a hotel. This makes it real easy to find the guy and head straight to a room before anyone loses the urge. Even better is that once everyone is ready to go the wife can head upstairs and get ready while the husband spends a few minutes with the guy to give him as much info as he can about their likes and dislikes. What he does and doesn't want to see and what she does and doesn't want to do. This will make things go much smoother when it actually happens. Some couples will even plan a weekend getaway so they can find an out of town guy that they will not run into again in their normal (at home) lives. Las Vegas is very popular for this purpose (assuming you don't live there). For some reason everyone has the notion that it is the place where you should do things you wouldn't normally do. But even somewhere within driving distance is worth looking into.
[edit] Swingers party?
Another option that can be considered here is to attend a Swingers Club or party. While wife sharing isn't totally in line with the usual happenings at one of these places, you have a more than good chance of finding the guy you are looking for there. Despite what most think the swinger environment is not a free-for-all sex orgy. It is a party where you can meet people, and have encounters only if you choose to do so. They have very strict rules made to protect all guests. If you have any interest in this option at all, it would be best to attend a club or party to observe only to see if it's something you're interested in. They welcome couples who want to observe just to see what it's like.
[edit] Online Dating
- www.isisquest.com
- www.swinglifestyle.com
- www.averageamateur.com
- www.swingers100.com
- www.personals100.com
- www.swingersites.com
- www.adultfriendfinder.com
- www.domywife.com
- www.ashleymadison.com
- www.craigslist.com
- www.myspace.com
Above are several sources where you can sign-up and find a guy from the comfort of your home. The down side is that you will most likely get responses from literally hundreds of undesirable guys before finding a guy that you like. The up-side is that you can be very specific in your profile on what you are looking for and you don't have to subject yourself to anyone that you aren't interested in. Most likely she can choose whichever guy online she is most attracted to, and would be hard pressed to find a single one that isn't interested in sex for one night. SO DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS! You can also plan everything about the encounter with him before it actually happens. If you choose to go this route, it is very important for the wife to post pictures of herself for potential guys to see. Most of these sites have two posting areas. One for general pictures and another for private pictures. Nobody can see the private pictures unless you allow them access. So the main "public" picture should be one that is sexy enough to attract attention. And the private ones can be more graphic if you choose, or just "sexier". In either case, you can optionally blur out her face for privacy which is very common.
[edit] Male Escort
Another online option is to hire a male escort. This option is common with couples who can afford to do it, and don't like having to pick-up a guy or use an online dating site. It is also popular because most men are in the business because they have desirable qualities that women look for. The down side is that male escorts are not as common as female ones. So, it might be difficult to find one in the area you are looking. Couples who choose this option can expect to pay at least $300 and up for an hour of work. Common online places to find male escorts are:
- www.men4rentnow.com
- www.allmaleescorts.com
- www.americanmale.net
- www.localmaleescorts.com
- www.top100maleescorts.com
- www.latinomaleescorts.com
- www.trophyboyz.com
- www.craigslist.com
[edit] Suprise
The rarest but most creative way a husband is able to witness his wife with another man is by suprise. There have been multiple couples who reported that the wife arranged for a guy without telling her husband. This has occurred in several ways. One had the guy already in the house when her husband came home from work. Another had a guy knock on the door of their hotel room at bed time. Believe it or not there was one who arranged the encounter in an elevator stopped between floors when the husband thought he was going to a party at an apartment with his wife. The guy got in the elevator with them stopped the elevator between floors and he and the wife got started. While all of these are great and perfectly acceptable, it does take away from the anticipation for the husband. Fun things like this would be recommended if you planned on doing it again and again.
[edit] Be Safe
It is recommended that anyone who decides to take part in wife sharing should always practice birth control and safe sex. If sex is preferred without a condom then it is recommended to use one of the instant STD verification systems available. These verification systems work quickly, are very reliable and are only a small inconvenience to give you full peace-of-mind during your encounter.
[edit] Oprah Show Transcript with Dr Laura Berman
This transcript snippet is from the November 3, 2008 Oprah show featuring sex therapist Laura Berman. It is just another example of the prevalence of the wife sharing fantasy
OPRAH WINFREY (HOST): Yes. So why are sexual fantasies important?
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Well, it's a key part of not only novelty and keeping things interesting in a long-term relationship, but it's part of what connects the two of you. It's part of the intimacy, it's part of the trust, and it's one of the things that I've found working with as many couples will really help to revitalize the sexual connection. It requires a tremendous amount of trust and safety to bring those things up.
OPRAH WINFREY (HOST): So, so during therapy, Debra revealed a secret sexual fantasy that Dr. Berman says nearly 60% of women share. So let's hear what it is.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Any sexual fantasies or sexual dreams?
DEBRA (COUPLES THERAPY): Being dominated.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Okay. And have you explored that with Tom at all in the past?
DEBRA (COUPLES THERAPY): No.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Were they fantasies where someone was dominating you?
DEBRA (COUPLES THERAPY): Yes.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Okay. Were you beaten or hurt or --
DEBRA (COUPLES THERAPY): No, I was never beaten or hurt. But overpowered.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Okay.
TOM (COUPLES THERAPY): I fantasize about Deb being with other men.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Okay.
TOM (COUPLES THERAPY): I can't have her, so I'd like to see someone else having her and I think she's a beautiful woman, so what could be better than watching a beautiful woman...
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Mm-hmm.
TOM (COUPLES THERAPY): ...being pleased?
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): And you talked pretty specifically about what these fantasies are. Would it feel okay to kind of act some of them out in a sexual way?
TOM (COUPLES THERAPY): Yes.
DEBRA (COUPLES THERAPY): I think maybe over time I could do that for him. And I mean, the domination was like something that's been internal inside of me that no one has ever known, and because I'm kind of prudish on the other hand, it's kind of about me trying to, like, knock down my inhibitions and think more freely about things.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Well, you're going to the erotica shop today and one thing that you may want to look at is some props. You know, some furry handcuffs or a silk scarf or a blindfold. They even have, I think, bondage kits.
OPRAH WINFREY (HOST): Yeah. So first of all, let me just say how brave you guys are for doing this.
DR. LAURA BERMAN (SEX THERAPIST): Their fantasies were actually pretty compatible. I mean, that's the whole thing is that people are so scared to bring it up with their partners, and what they find is when they do, the partner is often very receptive, and a fantasy that you have doesn't mean that you necessarily have to act it out in real life at all. It can be just pretend role-play.
Dr. Berman makes it clear in the last statement that fantasies can be played out through role playing. It is necessary for her to make this statement to maintain credibility with her audience. But she still left it open to the discretion of the couple to make that decision. It would be very difficult to role play a wife sharing scenario. A husband can get very aroused by his wife talking about what she would do with a guy while he watched, but that would be far removed from the experience of it actually happening.
[edit] Real Experiences
[edit] Indianapolis, IN.
When my husband turned 40, he suddenly had this urge to watch me with another man. I wasn't against it, but the thought both scared me and also turned me on at times. I just worried about how things would be after it happened. I thought I knew better than he did about what he really wanted. But as time went on and he didn't let up, I finally decided that if he wanted it that bad, I might as well do it. And it would be his problem if he regretted it. If the worst part for me is having some fun with a different guy, then why should I turn it down? It would be like having an affair that you could never get in trouble for. But I did tell my husband that nothing was going to happen until I lost 40 lbs. There was no way me or the other guy were going to enjoy it my my current condition. My husband agreed that he would like it better too. This was something I wanted to do anyway since my last child was now 10 it made sense that i was time to drop the baby weight. (About a year later...) Finally reached my goal! That sure wasn't easy, but I now look and feel better than when I was 30. So, I went ahead as above all I was confident of my husband & our love for each other. And he was really sincere about being okay with the whole thing if just I tried it once for him. The sex in my first experience was so enjoyable that it was mind boggling. I did not know sex could be so enjoyable. In fact my husband was the one who was more nervous right before the first time. Now we periodically bring another man in whenever the urge hits us. I definitely feel we have come closer to each other & our marriage is now stronger & better than it ever was.
[edit] Phoenix, AZ.
I really enjoy having sex with my wife, and I love being able to see her pleasure while we are doing it. Sometimes it is difficult to get the full effect when you are the one having sex. That is when I started to fantasize about watching her with another man. The thought of her spreading her legs for another cock, and being able to watch it happen was almost too much of a turn on for me. I finally couldn't take it anymore and had to tell her that I wanted to see it. Her first response was that I was crazy, which diffused my excitement for a while. Then, about a month later while we were watching a porno, she started making comments as if she were the one in the video. The talk turned me on so much that I came very quickly after we started having sex. After seeing how much of an affect just talking about it had on me she said that she wanted to try letting me watch her with another man. I was so excited I could hardly concentrate on anything else for the next couple of weeks. We decided that we would try making it happen in Vegas during a pre-planned trip. One night we went to studio 54 at the MGM. There we met a guy that my wife was very attracted to. He was about 10 years younger than my wife which didn't seem to bother her at all. After several drinks the conversation migrated to sex. I don't remember what prompted it, but suddenly my wife blurted out that I wanted to watch her do it with another guy! Our new friend's face lit up and he said if we ever needed any help making that happen he would be happy to lend a hand. After that the three of us went to our hotel, our guy friend showered and the magic finally happened. I was so absolutely turned on watching them that I could hardly contain myself. After they were done and he left my wife was still very horny, so I happily finished the job. I love her more than ever for doing that for me, and I am totally open to allowing it to happen again, but only if she want's to. But if it never happens again, I am thankful that I got to see it once in my life.
[edit] Monroe, LA
Marriage is never perfect and it is the people that believe it should be that end up leaving it. I believe that a marriage is a full time job for both partners and it's requirements are constantly changing. I want nothing more than for my marriage to work. So when my husband wants something from me, I take it seriously just as I would expect that he do for me. Again, marriage is always a work in progress and both husband and wife should consider eachothers needs, desires, fantasies and whatever is needed to keep it fun and fresh and treat eachother as if every day were your last day together. Even with my full committment attitude, I was suprised by my husbands request for this fantasy. I am committed to consider all of his requests if I believe they are sincere and will strengthen our marriage. But I definitely wasn't sure that this would be a good thing for us to do. I worried about how he would feel afterwards. I wondered how I would feel after as well. We discussed it a lot outside of the bedroom to make sure our decision wasn't swayed by passion. It's funny because in the heat of the moment, I was totally into doing it for him. But when I thought about it in my non-sex life, I really had no interest. After a week or so of intermittently talking about it, I told my husband that we could move forward with the intention that it will happen but we would continue to consider whether or not to go through with it. I told him that the only way it would/could possibly happen is if we skipped having sex for a while so that I could get in the right frame of mind. He didn't really like that idea but agreed because he realized it was the only way that I would go through with it. After about 4 months of no sex, I was getting pretty horny. In fact at some moments I was ready to have sex with anyone who was willing! So, I started looking for ways to find a guy that would suit my needs. I looked online, and my husband and I went out to some bars, I also thought about some of the single guys that we knew. My husband said he didn't care who it was as long as I was happy with him. It took me quite a while to find anyone that I was willing to do this with. I am very particular when it comes to guys! Finally, I met a guy online that was perfect in every way. After a few weeks of correspondence with him, and no sex for 5+ months I was ready to explode with horniness. I don't like outlining the details of what happened, but I will just say that my husband and I met up with this guy and the experience was much more than I ever imagined it would be. Yes there was nervousness, there was hesitation, there was fear. But once it all came together it was pretty incredible.
[edit] Detroit, MI
My husband of 8 yrs brought this up one day last year and at first I thought he was either joking or trying to trap me but he kept bringing it up. So I told him that if he got the guy I'd sleep with him. Finally after a month of hearing him talk about it we were out at a local club and I started dancing with this totally hot guy and my husband was very excited about it. I was suprised because he was black. While we danced he was practially begging me to go home with him, I wasn't gonna argue cause this guy was super cute and sexy so I continued dancing with him while my husband watched. The guy was from out of town and was staying at the hotel we were at. We started kissing on the dance floor and he asked me if I wanted to go up to his room, of course I said yes as long as my husband could come. That suprised him but I think he was so horny that he agreed. Now I have seen my fair share of penises and I know that black men are not any bigger on average but this man was enormous. He was so big I could barely get my mouth around him and when he pushed in me I felt a stretch I hadn't felt since my first time. Thank goodness he was much better than my first and was gentle enough to be easy until I stretched out for him. The sex was great, mostly cause he was so big, but being streched like that was a huge turn on. I was having so much fun, I practically forgot my husband was there.
About an hour later we were both ready to go again and that time was magical, I love my husband very much and even more now for allowing me to do this. He was so long and thick that he hit what I have now call my d-spot (or deep spot) its when my uterus literally has to move out of the way! He made me cum so hard that I peed myself (glad you don't know me) and by the time he came the second time I would need 2 hands to count my orgasms, and I am usually very hard to please. Great experience.
[edit] Clearfield, PA
My husband and I go out every weekend dancing and I wear short skirts because he absolutely loves them. Once he told me I could probably pick-up any guy in the bar and take him home and sleep with him. He also said if I ever did that, he wanted to watch. The idea of it really turned my on so I picked up this guy we all went back to our place and my husband sat and watched me do "everything" with this guy. For a long time I was riding this rock hard cock. It was amazing because it feels so much diffrent just because you are with someone else. I couldn't believe my husband was enjoying just watching me do this. I really loved it and would do it if he wants to again.
Tonya
[edit] Great Falls, MT
Me and my wife once and a while would talk about doing this but never did carry it out until we went to vegas one weekend. My wife who was looking really good after working out for over a year and got new breast was feeling good about herself and now she was looking super hot in sexy clothes and bathing suites even though she was a mother of three and in her late 30’s. After an awesome night of dinner and gambling my wife said she had a surprise for me in the room. When she came out of our hotel room bathroom she was wearing a super hot sexy dress that did not leave much to the imagination and asked me if I wanted to go dancing at the club downstairs. We left and were their at the club for a while and you could tell guys were wanting her. Some guys kept asking her to dance every time I would leave her side. We would laugh about it but you could tell she was thinking about the same thing I was. I asked her if she wanted to dance with them, and she did not mind. Before long someone asked her and she went out on the dance floor. I was totally turned on by seeing how much fun she was having with these men dancing and grinding and really flurting with her and not letting anyone else talk to her when they would buy her drinks at the bar. About an hour later she told them she was using the bath room but came over to were I was watching them and said she was ready to go for it but did not know what to do. I told her I would wait in the closet in our room and for her to come up in about 20 minutes. I was in the closet when she opened the door of our room and came in with two of the men she was dancing with. They immediatly began fondling her and telling her how hot and beautiful she was then had her dress up exposing her g-string and sexy tan body. Then they were both undoing their pants and exposing themselves as they pulled off the rest of her dress. As they made love to her she made sounds she never made with me. When they both were inside her she was making me go crazy and I was never so hot for my wife in years. After almost 2 hours they were finally finished and on their way but I was not and now it was my turn. That was the best love making me and my wife had in years. Now we occasionally do this but we are still a strong couple with a great sex life.
[edit] Denver, CO.
My husband had been bugging me to do this for a long time. I have always believed that once a man and woman get married they are committed to being only with eachother. And if one or the other has sex with someone else, it is cheating. But I guess I never imagined that he would ever want me to have sex with someone other than him. After believing one way for such a long time it took me a while to digest the idea of doing it with another guy. Sometimes I would see a sexy guy on TV and wonder what it would be like to have that hot young body wanting mine. I couldn't help thinking in the back of my mind that any guy I would be interested in sleeping with, would definitely not be interested in my old body. But I do still consider myself a sexy 45 year old lady which is what helped me decide to try it. I was very suprised to find out how many young attractive guys are perfectly willing to be with me! I won't go into a lot of detail but when it finally happened for us it was absolutely amazing. To all you ladies out there, try it, you'll love it!
[edit] Atlanta, GA.
Well, I think I have everyone beat on pleasing my husband by taking part in this fantasy. After doing this for him he went out and bought me a Lexus to show his appreciation. I have to confess that he was already saving up to buy it, but said after seeing that he just had to give me something for it. He is a great guy and definitely deserved it without buying me the car, but I'm not giving it back!
[edit] Piedmont Hills, VA
I have been sharing my wife with several other men from time to time for about 2 years now. We have been married for over 20 years (her second, my third), in our early sixties and are deeply happy with each other. Most of my life I have had this fetish of wishing to see the woman of my affection arouse and pleasure another man and herself. My wife was understandably shocked when - after 15 years or so, I confessed my favorite fantasy. We talked about it for several years and she gradually became excited by the prospect. When we finally consummated this desire, she was absolutely ecstatic - as I was. To sit and view her with this very well endowed and gentle man was intensely exciting and filled me at the same time with an enormous sense of love and tenderness for her. To behold her excitement and happiness was nearly orgasmic for me. When I joined them on the bed for a 'threesome', our sense of erotic and romantic bonding became palpably more profound. We now engage in this activity every 2 to 4 weeks with a very nice man who is about 15 years younger than she and we are all delighted with the arrangement. Obviously, this is not for everyone, so I have no wish to proselytize, but to simply share that it has worked for us very well so far. We both know that one day we will become less and less sexually active but for now this is a wonderful highlight in our very precious relationship. This is in no way intended to be a solution or antidote for a poor or troubled relationship. We are both quite clear that this is for very secure people who wish to take their erotic life - and their relationship to another level.
[edit] Jackson, MS
Ladies, I have been doing this for my husband for a couple of years now so let me pass along some advice. First, you don't have to be Megan Fox for this to work. I have always been considered "pretty" but I would never let a guy see me without make-up because I would probably scare him out the door. Since I started doing it, it has been a motivator to get in better shape which helps me from a health standpoint and I can get a better class of guy. My husband agreed to get me some implants which I needed anyway to make my boobs actually look like boobs, and not a pair of pointed meat flaps. That will happen as soon as we can afford it (can't wait). Lastly, don't just go by looks when you decide on a guy. I know that is all you can do initially, but a gorgeous guy with a tiny penis will be a big disappointment. Unless you are attracted to "the smaller the better" make sure he has a minimum of 7" in his pants. also, I know it sounds creepy but if you are considering doing this, sign up for some of the dating websites (the ones geared towards just sex). It is a lot of fun to see who is out there, and you can pre-screen guys really easy. Don't be alarmed though, you will get a million creepy guys before seeing one good one. It is fun to message with guys about sex because there is no way they will ever find out who you are online. Oh, one more REALLY important item. If you are a clean freak like me you'll want to make sure your guy showers right before anything happens. There's nothing like having sex with a squeaky clean stud and it eliminates being preoccupied by any unfamiliar smells. When you actually do this for the first time the whole process will be weird until you are actually doing it. You'll be nervous, excited, scared, horny, scared, nervous, then if you chose your guy carefully, you'll love it! Have fun!
[edit] Wheeling, VA
I wanted to do this with my wife. She and I aren't really good looking folks, but we both hoped there would be someone who would take an interest. We were at the Octoberfest over in Bridgeport, VA at the end of this past summer and we met a fella who she really liked and he seemed like a good one to me. After aq bunch of beers it ended up real clear that she and him were gonna do it together. We went back to our place and all three of us had a real good time. I only watched of course but she liked having a different fella rolling around in the bed with her and I admit it was a lot of fun to watch.
[edit] Las Cruces, NM
I have given Anne the possibility of being spoiled by another man while I was there. If done with consent it is one of the most exciting and enriching experiences one can go through. If you toss away jealousy and can really enjoy your wife's ability to arouse another man and then get aroused herself by the novelty than you are courageous but also mature. I think it is natural and I admire her for going through it.
[edit] Youngstown, OH.
I don't know how I stumbled upon this message board, but I'm glad I did. Quite a while ago my husband expressed an interest in doing this type of thing. I was totally against it at the time, and made it very clear to him that it would never happen. On several occasions he would bring it up again, but I stood my ground. There are many things in my life that I look back on that I wish I had handled differently. My husband passed away suddenly three years ago. There are many things I regret not saying and not doing for him while he was here. I also wish I would have at least tried this for him. I realize that this is easy for me to say now that he is gone, but I definitely feel like I deprived him of something that nobody else could have given him. At the time, it was so easy to say no and not be bothered with it. Now I feel selfish that I didn't at least consider it and see if we could have made it work somehow. Even if it never happened, I would have felt better that he knew I was willing. I am not suggesting that everyone should do it. This is not meant to guilt anyone into doing it because their husband might die. Because there are certainly couples that have no business getting involved in this type of thing. I am just saying think about it seriously and discuss it, and make the right decision about it.
[edit] Andover, MA
My husband always talks about watching me with another man. I must say, I’m quite receptive to the idea! I just hope he doesn’t get too jealous after. And whoever this guy is will definitely be wearing protection! I am excited and nervous, wish me luck.
[edit] Cedar City, UT
After coming home early and finding my husband and his friends watching a “Screw My Wife” video, we later talked about it and to my surprise he was keen to try it, but we didn’t want word to get around. He was even more surprised to hear me say that I’d like to try it too. So we did try it on vacation out of state and for both of us it was fantastic. Over the 14 day vacation we did it three times (twice with one guy and once with two). One of the guys was really BIG, and my husband said that watching and listening to me with him was the best experience of our marriage. We did use condoms all the time which normally I don't like, but as exciting as this was I didn't even notice them. We both think that a lot of wifes/partners would try it (and enjoy it) if they could only discuss it together without embarrassment. Most wives would never tell their husband that they would like to have sex with another man while he watched, and vice versa. I should perhaps add that sex between my husband and me is great.
[edit] Wichita, KS.
My wife and I have always had a very open and honest relationship. We have great sex and I never thought of sharing her with anyone. On New Years eve in 2006, we went over her sisters house to celebrate. There were also two other couples there that were friends of ours growing up. We were having a great time, and the alcohol was flowing. We were reminiscing about our younger years and remebering back when 6 of the eight people there today played spin the bottle together back in 10th grade. I don't remember who, but somebody made a comment that the game would be much funner today knowing what we know now. Anyway, one thing led to another and we all took off our wedding rings for a rematch. Basically it was a reason to kiss eachothers husbands and wives with no jealousy or strings attached. The funny part was that I really got aroused watching my wife kissing the other guys. In fact, she matched up with the same guy three times in a row, so the kiss got more passionate each time with tongues and everything. I could see that they were both turned on by it and it really got me going too. After the party on the way home I confessed to my wife how turned on I was. She told me that she looked at me after each time and could tell I was enjoying it, so she made the kisses better on purpose. Then she asked, "if that turned you on, would it turn you on to watch me do it with a guy?". I thought for a moment, and then said "yes!". She has been with another guy twice now and it is a lot of fun and a great turn-on.
[edit] Lincoln, NE
The fantasy is partly wrapped up in voyeuristic tendencies. You get your thrills watching others perform sex. So, watching your wife perform sex on someone else lets you fantasize that she is with you. Sounds odd, but your thrills come from WATCHING and fantasizing about it more than about being in the middle of it. Secondly, it is a bit masochistic. By watching your wife have sex with another man, you are arousing your jealousy, and that emotional pain feels good (like those people who enjoy going to the dentist). And finally, participating in the forbidden, giving your wife a forbidden pleasure (being with two men at once or being with a non-spouse -- if you just watch), and others. I have known some people who have engaged in this and it enhances their relationship provided they do not have any unresolved issues.
[edit] Tampa, FL
The one thing that makes this possible and fun is that there are dozens of young guys wanting to get with older women. It almost seems like it is fashionable now. My wife went from submitting to becoming older to a renewed outlook on life. She is happy all the time and always ready to have fun. I love this and recommend it to anyone that feel their relationship can handle it.
[edit] Ontario, Canada
I'm not here to report an experience because I haven't had one yet. My husband really wants me to try this and I would love to be able to do it for him. When I am horny I am totally into it I could visualize myself being a total slut with some cute guy while my husband watches me. It sounds like a totally hot, sexy experience that would make me feel so good. But when I am not in the mood I really don't have any interest in it. I feel bad because he is so excited about the whole thing, and I wish I could match his enthusiasm about it but so far it is off and on with me. I told him that if the opportunity hits at the same time that I am in the mood then I will gladly do it. But I cannot force myself to do it if I am not feeling it at the time. I suppose If we went through the process of finding someone and setting it up, I might become horny when it is about to happen. I really don't see how I wouldn't be horny, but I am still struggling with the whole thing in my head. I hope we can accomplish this some day. I'll provide an update if and when there is one.
[edit] Topeka, KS
My husband made this suggestion to me over ten years ago. I didn't know what to think of it at the time but, after a year or so of talking about it and him gently urging me to try it, I did.
It was strange having another man inside me, since my hubby was the first. But to my amazement -- and with some guilt -- I absolutely loved it. And I got over my feeling of guilt after a couple of times. From that first time it slowly graduated to doing it more, until now we have threesomes with other men, at least once a month, sometimes more. My husband watches and sometimes joins in. I am very comfortable with it and love the extra attention.
I also love my husband even more (and he me!) and I know he gets very excited watching me with another man. Having him there is a turn-on. Infrequently I have sex with one of our "regular" friends alone, with my hubby's knowledge. That happens when he's away for his work. But I always give him a full account when he gets back and we make mad, passionate love. We've been doing that now for nearly 10 years since he first suggested it. GREAT!!!
It's easy for anyone who hasn't tried it to make judgements but they don't know what they're talking about. Besides, it's OUR business so if you don't like it, don't do it. It's your loss.
[edit] Miami, FL.
[edit] Columbus, OH.
The wife and I used to do this back in our late 30s and early 40s. It was an amazing time that we still remenisce about now that we are in our 60s. We obviously don't do it anymore but we are glad we did because it is something that she and I shared that nobody else knew about except us and the guys she was with. Nobody likes to admit it, but the older you get, the less you matter. People rarely come to visit because they want to only because they feel they have to. For the right couples with the right intentions this is a great suppliment to a relationship. This is definitely something that makes you feel like you matter a whole lot. It actually increases the bond because each spouse is doing something above and beyond what is expected in a normal relationship. We look back on it and remember how much fun it was. I loved her for doing it and she loved me for letting her. As long as you are doing it for the love of your spouse it will be a great thing.
[edit] Seattle, WA
Believe it or not, thousands of men get excited at the thought of exposing their wives to other men while they watch, but these fantasies may or may not include having sex. This fantasy is highly popular among 40-year-old ish men that are settled in their married life.
Studies have been conducted regarding men who imagine their women with other men and because they end up stirring emotions of jealousy and competitiveness, it causes them to reach orgasm more quickly.
Although I think that everyone you should give this a lot of thought, if you really want to watch her make love to another man, then perhaps discussing each other's fantasies can get you started at broaching the topic.
[edit] Manhatten, NY.
I wanted my wife to do this so bad. She had absolutely no interest in it. I was really upset that there were other guys who's wives were willing and mine wasn't. I tried not to let it show how much I wanted it because I didn't want her to think I was this wierd sex pervert. But I thought about it just about every day. I felt like she was only thinking of herself and not even considering what I wanted. It also confused me that I had no interest in other women, and that I actually wanted her to be with another guy, and she didn't want to. If she asked me to do it, I would do it in a second just to please her. As I said, I have no interest in other women, so I would be doing it for her. It hurts me that she doesn't feel that way about my needs. Maybe it is because I am a guy, but I find it hard to believe that she wouldn't enjoy having sex with a guy other than me. There is no magic in getting married that turns off your ability to like doing it. I would think she would probably enjoy it more because it is with someone new. If she did it and I didn't like it it would totally be my fault and I would never throw it back in her face. I truly just believe she is taking the easy way out because she doesn't want to be bothered with it. I hope I can get over this at some point. To all those guys who's wives are doing it for them, please know that you are damn lucky.
[edit] Newark, NJ.
I want to tell this story, and being a writer I tend to be long winded so bear with me. My wife and I have always had a good sex life. We get along very well and we plan on being married for life. However, we don't buy into the whole soul-mate thing. You marry who you marry and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. But just because it works doesn't mean it wouldn't have worked with someone else just as well. As I said before, our sex life is good. But I am always open to anything new my wife wants to try, and she feels the same about me. Although now sex is less frequent because our kids are older and it's difficult to get time alone. One night when all of our kids had plans for the night, we retired early to the bedroom for an adult DVD. While we were watching the DVD my wife commented on how large the guys penis was on the video. She said she wondered what it would be like to experience one that big. I knew what she meant because she had only been with one other guy before me and she told me more than once that he was smaller. As we discussed it I realized her desire for it was turning me on. We've always been honest with eachother so I told her how I was feeling. She wondered exactly what turned me on, and I told her it was the thought of her with the guy in the video. The next day she found this adultwiki website that talked all about wife sharing. She told me all bout it and it made me feel better that my feelings were more common than I had thought. My wife and I have never been into swapping or swinging or anything like that. So after discussing it further we decided that we were both open to it and would allow it to happen if the opportunity came our way. About 6 months later nothing had happened and I was a bit disappointed. I told my wife how I felt and she agreed and said maybe we should put in a little effort to try and help it along (love her for that). She created an account on www.ashleymadison.com. The website is for married people looking for relationships outside of their marriage. The nice thing is that it is completely anonymous so nobody we knew would ever find us on there. In her profile she described herself and what it was we were looking for. We received several responses, but none that she was interested in. One of the responders recommended that we add some pictures of her to the site to get more feedback. So she made herself up and I snapped some pictures. We blurred out her face to maintain anonynimity. My wife and I are in our late 40s, but we are both still in good shape and look younger than we actually are (so we've been told). After adding the pictures dozens of responses began rolling in. It was a bit disappointing at first because most of them were not attractive guys at all, and most of them were married. We definitely wanted a single guy because we weren't interested in someone who intended to cheat on their wife. We also received responses from guys who wanted to swap wives, which wasn't our intention either. After a few weeks my wife had developed an online relationship with a few potential guys. She said she began feeling a nervous excitement when she thought that something may happen soon. I told her not to rush to a decision as we weren't in a hurry. She promised that she wouldn't. One day when I came home from work, she was all excited and announced that she had found him and was ready. Then she promptly told me that it was none of the guys she had been messaging with. She said earlier that day she got a message from a 34 year old male model! I didn't believe her at first, but then she showed me their correspondence and the pictures of him. He was a very attractive guy and sounded really nice in his messages. I asked her if she was sure about him, and she responded - absolutely! Apparently he travels around the U.S. doing model stuff and was going to be in our area the following weekend. As I read through all of the back and forth messaging, in one statement he mentioned that he had always been attracted to older women. And that this would be the third time he would meet a woman who's husband wanted to watch. That statement actually made me more comfortable about the whole thing. As the weekend drew closer, I got more excited about it. We were to meet him in the bar at his hotel on Saturday evening at 9pm. My wife immediately went shoppin for new clothes. She bought a sexy dress and shoes as well as some lingerie. On saturday afternoon she showered and spent extra time in the bathroom getting herself ready. We decided to get there around 8 so we could have a drink or two to calm our nerves. When she came downstairs ready to go she looked absolutely stunning. I couldn't help thinking how lucky this guy was going to be to have my wife. At the hotel bar we drank and talked about how we wanted the evening to go. The time seemed to drag, and about 8:45 my wifes cell phone rang. She answered it and it was him. He told her to look toward the bar and there he was lookin tanned and even more attractive than his pictures. He came over to our table and introduced himself to me. Then he complimented my wife and told her she looked way too young for him. She laughed nervously and thanked him. I excused myself and went to the restroom to give them some time alone. I took my time so they could talk with less awkwardness. Apparently I gave them plenty of time because when I returned they were passionately kissing. I walked back to the restroom to wash my hands again, and when I came back my wife stood up. She told me that she had his room key and was heading up to get ready and needed about a 15 minute head start. He and I stayed at the table and talked. I told him all of the things that she liked and disliked and what I had hoped to see. He was very nice and understanding and I told him I was really happy with her choice. 15 minutes later, we headed upstairs. When we got to the room she was still in the bathroom. I sat down in a chair near the bed and he turned on some music. When she came out of the bathroom my jaw dropped to the floor. She was dressed all in white lingerie. High heels, fishnet stockings, little white booty shorts (with a cute camel toe), and a boostier. He hair was amazing and she had on some extra makeup that looked awesome. I would guess that any guy would pay $1000.00+ to be with her looking like that. They immediately approached eachother and began kissing. His hands were all over her and she was already making sexual moans. Moments later I could see his erection through his pants. When she had finally felt her way to that area she moaned even louder. She immediately knelt down and began undoing his pants. As she slid them down his penis seemed to never end behind the elastic of his underwear. When the tip finally came out it almost hit her on the chin. She looked at me wide-eyed in disbelief. He was definitely bigger than me and she paused for a moment like she wasn't sure what to do with it. She put it in her mouth and after a few moments really began getting into it. She did that for a long time as his hips moved in rhythm. Then he moved her to the bed and started fingering her while he kissed her passionately. I believe she orgasm'd 3 or 4 times while he was doing that. Then he stood her up and bent her over on the bed glancing at me and repositioning her to be sure I had a good view. A chill went down my spine as I realized he was about to enter her while I watched. He rubbed the head of his big penis on her clit for a few moments as she begged him to put it in. I could feel my own cock getting rock hard in anticipation of what was about to happen. When he finally slid it in she screamed with pleasure. As he began thrusting in and out I was actually dizzy with arousal and felt a slight urge to ejaculate in my pants. I had to look away for a moment to keep it from happening. When I finally looked back she looked toward me with total pleasure on her face and mouthed "oh my god" and closed her eyes. Shortly after she let out a scream and juices were pouring down both of their legs. That totally amazed me because my wife has only squirted a handful of times and it was only when I was fingering her. She looked so damn good getting fucked. They went at it for about 30 minutes in multiple positions before he announced that he was going to cum. This was when she was stradled on top of him sliding up and down on his cock. She began going faster as he tensed up during ejaculation. When they were done they were both all smiles and exhausted. I told him that watching it was awesome and I thanked him for doing it. He told me that my wife was the best he had been with and that he would do it again any time. She went in the bathroom as he got dressed and I was still visualizing what I had seen in my head. It had actually happened and I really loved it. On the way home she told me that she enjoyed it much more than she had anticipated. She always assumed it would be fun for her but that I would be the one who enjoyed it most. I told her that seeing that totally satisifed me and she didn't have to do it again if she didn't want to. She said that she didn't want to say never but also didn't want to plan another encounter right away. I apologize for such a long story, but once I began writing it was hard to leave out any of the important details. Anyway our first experience was definitely memorable and probably very rare (you know, male model and all). I can honestly say that I would have been completely satisfied with an experience half as good as this one was.
[edit] Sacramento, CA
Hey all! I play the part of the "other guy" in these events. I am 33 years old and in good shape, muscular and above average in size. The couples looking for this are usually in their late 30s and early 40s. I absolutely love doing this because there is nothing better than sex with a woman who has been with the same guy for a long time. Older women are more passionate, and definitely know what to do in bed. I find an older woman's body very sexy and it is a big turn-on for me that she is married and I am able to to do this with her. Just so you know, there are a lot of guys that go out looking for experienced women that they can go home with. They could care less if their husband is there or not.
[edit] Baker City, ID.
I have always been open to whatever my husband wanted in the bedroom. But I have to admit, I was suprised when he asked me for this! I wasn't really comfortable with my body and was pretty sure that no other guy would want to have sex with me. Or they would agree to it and be totally repulsed once I got naked and saw my 39 year old body. I tried to just let him forget about it, but that wasn't happening. So I decided that I had better get myself in shape, especially if this was his way of trying to fill some sexual void I didn't want him looking for some other option since I was against it. A couple of months later I was feeling a lot better about myself, and gave a different answer the next time he brought it up. I could tell he was so excited he could hardly contain himself. That night we had incredible sex. It was like a physical "thank you" from him. My first encounter was with a young attractive guy that I assume was way out of my league. He was very muscular, latino looking and had something in his pants I had only seen in videos. There is nothing I can say to describe the feeling of a new cock inside of me after being with the same one for so long. Needless to say I was very pleased with my first experience, and much to my suprise my latino lover was very satisfied too. I was a little worried that I might develop feelings for this new guy, but instead I felt much more loving towards my husband for letting me do it. He even gave us his number in case we "needed" him again. Oh yeah, hubby was very happy too.
[edit] Cincinnati, OH
I just wanted to add my two cents. I am on the opposite side of the equation. I am the guy that gets chosen by wives to have sex with. I have an account on several of the dating websites and found that many couples are looking for this. It is a lot of fun, and I have a few couples that keep in touch with me whenever they are in town. This can be a lot of fun especially if the wife is uninhibited in the bedroom. It kind of puts a damper on things if she doesn't like certain positions, won't give a blowjob, or is funny about her hair getting messed up. Outside of that, it is great fun. Any guys that take on my role, be sure her husband can see everything that happens. Most important is the first time you penis goes inside of her (mouth and vagina). That is the biggest turn on for them. I would give my info here, but my plate is way too full.
[edit] Portland, OR.
Our first time came after 4 years of marriage. We went to another couple's house for dinner, had a few bottles of wine, and adjourned to their swimming pool. My wife had to borrow a swimsuit from the hostess, who was a very small lady--about 5 ft tall and 95 pounds. My wife was 5'4", and about 120 pounds. The swimsuit she borrowed was too small, and she was spilling out all over. I could see instantly that the host was blown away by my wife's body. After a little while in the pool, the host's wife--a nurse--was called in to work for an emergencey. We and the host stayed in the pool after the wife left and soon decided we needed another bottle of wine. My wife and I and the host got pretty loose. The host made a joking comment about all that was was hanging out of my wife's borrowed swimsuit, and asked why she even bothered to have a swimsuit on. We all laughed, and decided we needed more wine. My wife went in and got another bottle, and returned wearing nothing but a smile. She stood beside the pool, right over the host and poured the him another glass of wine. When she got back into the pool, she whispered to me that she very much wanted to do what we had discussed many times before. It caught me by suprise but I assured her it was ok. I soon went inside and laid down on the sofa, saying I was extremely tired and inebreiated. That gave my wife the chance to be alone with him. I heard them come inside about 30 minutes after me, and go the guest bedroom. I snuck down the hall about 5 minutes later, in time to see her taking his penis into her mouth. I stayed and watched the whole thing and I must say it was one of the best and most arousing things I had ever seen.
[edit] Minneapolis, MN.
I'll never forget the day my husband approached me about sharing me with another guy. I was so mad I was going to walk out the door. A million things began going through my head including all of the moral things that I had understood and believed for so many years. I actually went on the Internet and began searching Google to try and understand why he asked me to do this. I was suprised to find out how popular it actually was. As I read about it I began to cool down and actually started to realize that I was aroused by the idea. Over the past year since then, I have been with three different guys. Two of them were incredible, and one was good but not great (he finished too quick). The most memorable moment so far was when the last guy I was with was doing me from behind. I was so turned on that I wanted to swing around and suck his hard cock. But I didn't want him to stop doing me. So I begged my husband to come and put his penis in my mouth. Having his cock in my mouth with that guy thrusting me from behind was one of the most erotic feelings I have ever had. Two rock hard cocks wanting me was absolutely incredible. Have fun!!!
[edit] San Diego, CA
No one would ever recommend that someone take the step of sharing your wife with other men. However it is surprisingly common and successful for many of those who go down that road. I think there is actually some biological basis for having such desires having to do with diversifying the genes in a group. We are mostly monogamous but with powerful tugs to wander (both men and women). There is also a biological basis for monogamy--to protect our resource (wife) to insure your genes are passed on and not a strangers. Of course, when child bearing years are mostly behind us, the former urge can take charge. I don't know of any formal study, but the pop studies I have seen over the years suggest 25% of men fantasize about this, maybe half that for women (that is 2 male, 1 woman scenario). I have been invited into couples sex lives. They were sane interesting people and there was definitely a bond of friendship which, incidentally, helped the erotic tension. I have not shared a woman, but at this stage of my life I would be delighted to have a partner interested in such adventures.
[edit] Somerset, NJ.
My husband watches me have sex with black men all the time. It started out as his fantasy, and I wanted to have nothing to do with it. I finally gave in and did, and it has been an incredible experience. It is just good old fashioned feel good sex. My husband and I are very happy in our marriage and very much in love. I have no emotional attachment to any of the men I sleep with. I have been doing this for 3 years now and love it.
[edit] Austin, TX
It is the ultimate in viewing entertainment if your wife is someone who is able to fully submit during sex. She has the concentration to allow herself to reach orgasm, and is uninhibited. For both the husband and wife to enjoy it, I think the wife must be naturally sensual in bed and have strong desires to please her husband. I also firmly believe that the men who are having sex with these wives should only be the strong, well endowed, virle type who can do it until she is sensationally exhausted and sexually satisfied.
[edit] Jamestown, ND.
My wife and I tried this a few of years ago after finding out another couple that we know tried it. Those two are like the perfect couple so we always find ourselves wanting to do whatever they do. We are in our mid 30s and still active in the bar scene so we figured we could easily find someone to participate. One weekend, we drove to a singles club about 30 miles away from where we live. We sat at a table and ordered drinks and did some people watching. After we loosened up we hit the dance floor. We started dancing and she moved away from me when a guy she was interested in was nearby. I left the dance floor and she continued to dance with a couple of guys. When the song ended a slow song came on and I saw one guy ask her to dance. She apparently accepted. They danced like a couple totally into eachother. When the song ended, she brought him back to our table. He looked a bit suprised when he saw me, but she introduced us (and gave me a wink) and excused herself to the bathroom. While she was gone I began talking to him about her. I told him what we were looking for and asked him if he was interested. He asked a lot of questions about it and also asked me if I was sure. After I answered everything he agreed to do it. When she returned I told her that the three of us needed to find a place to go. Her face looked very suprised, then happy and she said, "oh....okay". We rented a room at a nearby hotel and that's where it happened. My wife absolutely loved the experience. For me it was fun to watch, but it wasn't something I needed to see again. I guess our friends spoke so highly of it I assumed we were missing something, but not for me. We both agreed that we wouldn't do it again and we are just glad that we at least tried it.
[edit] Elko, NV.
My wife went from absolutely hating the idea of this to totally loving it and anxiously waiting for it to happen again. We have never had so much fun together with anything. Before this we grew a little apart because our interests became different. This was just what we needed to make things fun again. I look at her so much differently now. She is damn sexy!
[edit] Boston, MA
My husband & I have done this for a few years. I get the exitement of a big or strange c*ck, he gets the exitement of watching me moaning and having huge CUMS. He says it is awesome to watch and he knows I will never leave him. He joins in on some occasions giving me a huge thrill of having 2 guys FOCUS on me and me alone. Any gal who hasn't tried MFM, needs to look at what they are missing. If both party's are agreeable, how can you knock it??????????????????????????
